Leaving Las Vegas

People change jobs for a multitude of reasons which cause them stress and concern. Let’s face it… job equals security. It can be a daunting task to make a decision to leave an employer. You are comfortable in your current environment, you have made close friends, and your day to day regimen becomes comfortable. But you are not making enough money, you are bored, you have opportunities in other fields, you are not appreciated…the list goes on and on. Are you ready for a change? Is it the right time? Below are a few things to think about before you send your resignation letter and jump ship at your current job. Listen closely……

1. Money Meltdown: If you can’t meet your monthly bills from your current paycheck, after taxes, each month (which include your rent/mortgage, utilities, auto payment and insurance, food, medical insurance and other basic necessities, it’s time to move on. Being able to pay all of your bills in a timely fashion, while having some money left over to save, invest or even splurge, is ideal. If you live pay check to pay check you should rethink your current position and determine whether switching careers or movement within your company is feasible.

 2. Are you Happy: On your way to work each day you should ask yourself are you happy? Do you enjoy your career? Your current job? Your superiors? The day to day tasks completed? If so, changing careers is not in your cards. However, if you are miserable and dread work every single day, you are certainly a candidate for leaving. Studies prove you spend more time at work than you do with your family. If you are unhappy during the time spent at work you need to make a move… and quick!

 3. Are there growth opportunities? Can you move up in the ranks at your current company? Are you bored and stagnant in your job? Ask yourself where do you see yourself in one year if you remain with your present employer? Is your company growing and can you grow along side? Pay attention to the economy and employment trends that can affect your job and job search. If you believe there is no room for growth it is time to make a change.

 What’s Next?

 If you now have decided that a job change is necessary look at it as an opportunity for growth. Here’s your chance to advance professionally and move closer to your career objective, or to redirect your skills and experience. Make sure you’re on track, take a moment to write down your strong points as well as your employment preferences.

 Ask yourself:

 • What are my strengths?

 • What do I really enjoy doing? You may need to seek an employment specialist to determine your target employers if you are having trouble deciding on a specific career.

 • How do I want to spend my day in an office, on the road, outdoors? Get clear on your location.

 • What type of work can I get the most satisfaction from while still earning sufficient income? You may have to read, read, read, to get this answer. Books, the internet and classes at your local college can all help inform you about how to maximize your strengths and, consequently, your earning power.

 • Am I willing to commute? If so, how far?

 • Do I like to work with people, computers, books, animals, plants?

 • Is my resume up-to-date? If not, hire a professional to maximize your strengths.

 • What type of benefits are you looking for from your new job? Do they have retirement packages, matching programs, medical and life insurance?

 Remember your job change does not have to be a distressing experience. In today’s world, it is commonplace for people to change jobs and careers more than once in their lifetime. In fact, it’s always a good idea to be improving your skills so that you will be an attractive candidate for a new job, whether it’s within your company or with a different employer. That way, you’ll be in a position to make exciting and advantageous career moves in the future because you want to, not because you have to.

Good luck! Don’t be afraid. Take risks! Enjoy the rewards!



Best Advice I Have read for a While

This has so much wisdom in it I felt that I just had to share……


Here are the rules: I’ve been at zero a few times, come back a few times, and done it over and over. I’ve started entire new careers. People who knew me then, don’t me now. And so on.

I’ve had to change careers several times. Sometimes because my interests changed. Sometimes because all bridges have been burned beyond recognition, sometimes because I desperately needed money. And sometimes just because I hated everyone in my old career or they hated me.

There are other ways to reinvent yourself, so take what I say with a grain of salt. This is what worked for me.

I’ve seen it work for maybe a few hundred other people. Through interviews, through people writing me letters, through the course of the past 20 years. You can try it or not.

  1. A) Reinvention never stops.

Every day you reinvent yourself. You’re always in motion. But you decide every day: forward or backward.

  1. B) You start from scratch.

Every label you claim you have from before is just vanity. You were a doctor? You were Ivy League? You had millions? You had a family? Nobody cares. You lost everything. You’re a zero. Don’t try to say you’re anything else.

  1. C) You need a mentor.

Else, you’ll sink to the bottom. Someone has to show you how to move and breathe. But don’t worry about finding a mentor (see below).

  1. D) Three types of mentors
  2. Someone who is in front of you who will show you how they did it. What is “it”? Wait. By the way, mentors aren’t like that old Japanese guy in “The Karate Kid.” Ultimately most mentors will hate you.
  3. Books. You can outsource 90 percent of mentorship to books and other materials. 200-500 books equals one good mentor. People ask me, “What is a good book to read?” I never know the answer. There are 200-500 good books to read. I would throw in inspirational books. Whatever are your beliefs, underline them through reading every day.
  4. Everything is a mentor.If you are a zero, and have passion for reinvention, then everything you look at will be a metaphor for what you want to do. The tree you see, with roots you don’t, with underground water that feeds it, is a metaphor for computer programming if you connect the dots. And everything you look at, you will connect the dots.
  5. E) Don’t worry if you don’t have passion for anything.

You have passion for your health. Start there. Take baby steps. You don’t need a passion to succeed. Do what you do with love and success is a natural symptom.

  1. F) Time it takes to reinvent yourself: five years.

Here’s a description of the five years:

  • Year One: you’re flailing and reading everything and just starting to DO.
  • Year Two: you know who you need to talk to and network with. You’re Doing every day. You finally know what the monopoly board looks like in your new endeavors.
  • Year Three: you’re good enough to start making money. It might not be a living yet.
  • Year Four: you’re making a good living
  • Year Five: you’re making wealth

Sometimes I get frustrated in years 1-4. I say, “why isn’t it happening yet?” and I punch the floor and hurt my hand and throw a coconut on the floor in a weird ritual. That’s okay. Just keep going. Or stop and pick a new field. It doesn’t matter. Eventually you’re dead and then it’s hard to reinvent yourself.

  1. G) If you do this faster or slower then you are doing something wrong.

Google is a good example.

  1. H) It’s not about the money. But money is a decent measuring stick.

When people say “it’s not about the money” they should make sure they have a different measuring stick.

“What about just doing what you love?” There will be many days when you don’t love what you are doing. If you are doing it just for love then it will take much much longer than five years.

Happiness is just a positive perception from our brain. Some days you will be unhappy. Our brain is a tool we use. It’s not who we are.

  1. I) When can you say, “I do X!” where X is your new career?


  1. J) When can I start doing X?

Today. If you want to paint, then buy a canvas and paints today, start buying 500 books one at a time, and start painting. If you want to write do these three things:

  • Read
  • Write
  • Take your favorite author and type your favorite story of his word for word. Wonder to yourself why he wrote each word. He’s your mentor today.

If you want to start a business, start spec-ing out the idea for your business. Reinvention starts today. Every day.

  1. K) How do I make money?

By year three you’ve put in 5,000-7,000 hours. That’s good enough to be in the top 200-300 in the world in anything. The top 200 in almost any field makes a living.

By year three you will know how to make money. By year four you will scale that up and make a living. Some people stop at year four.

  1. L) By year five you’re in the top 30-50 so you can make wealth.
  2. M) What is “it”? How do I know what I should do?

Whatever area you feel like reading 500 books about. Go to the bookstore and find it. If you get bored three months later go back to the bookstore.

It’s okay to get disillusioned. That’s what failure is about. Success is better than failure but the biggest lessons are found in failure.

Very important: There’s no rush. You will reinvent yourself many times in an interesting life. You will fail to reinvent many times. That’s fun also.

Many reinventions make your life a book of stories instead of a textbook.

Some people want the story of their life to be a textbook. For better or worse, mine is a book of stories.

That’s why reinvention happens every day.

  1. N) The choices you make today will be in your biography tomorrow.

Make interesting choices and you will have an interesting biography.

N1) The choices you make today will be in your biology tomorrow.

  1. O) What if I like something obscure? Like biblical archaeology or 11th-century warfare?

Repeat all of the steps above, and then in year five you will make wealth. We have no idea how. Don’t look to find the end of the road when you are still at the very first step.

  1. P) What if my family wants me to be an accountant?

How many years of your life did you promise your family? Ten years? Your whole life? Then wait until the next life. The good thing is: you get to choose.

Choose freedom over family. Freedom over preconceptions. Freedom over government. Freedom over people-pleasing. Then you will be pleased.

  1. Q) My mentor wants me to do it HIS way.

That’s fine. Learn HIS way. Then do it YOUR way. With respect.

Hopefully nobody has a gun to your head. Then you have to do it their way until the gun is put down.

  1. R) My spouse is worried about who will support/take care of kids?

Then after you work 16 hours a day, seven days a week being a janitor, use your spare time to reinvent.

Someone who is reinventing ALWAYS has spare time. Part of reinvention is collecting little bits and pieces of time and re-carving them the way you want them to be.

  1. S) What if my friends think I’m crazy?

What friends?

  1. T) What if I want to be an astronaut?

That’s not a reinvention. That’s a specific job. If you like “outer space” there are many careers. Richard Branson wanted to be an astronaut and started Virgin Galactic.

  1. U) What if I like to go out drinking and partying?

Read this post again in a year.

  1. V) What if I’m busy cheating on my husband or wife or betraying a partner?

Read this post again in two or three years when you are broke and jobless and nobody likes you.

  1. W) What if I have no skills at all?

Read “B” again.

  1. X) What if I have no degree or I have a useless degree?

Read “B” again.

  1. Y) What if I have to focus on paying down my debt and mortgage?

Read “R” again.

  1. Z) How come I always feel like I’m on the outside looking in?

Albert Einstein was on the outside looking in. Nobody in the establishment would even hire him.

Everyone feels like a fraud at some point. The highest form of creativity is born out of skepticism.

  1. AA) I can’t read 500 books. What one book should I read for inspiration?

Give up.

  1. BB) What if I’m too sick to reinvent?

Reinvention will boost every healthy chemical in your body: serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin. Keep moving forward and you might not get healthy but you will get healthier. Don’t use health as an excuse.

Finally, reinvent your health first. Sleep more hours. Eat better. Exercise. These are key steps to reinvention.

  1. CC) What if my last partner screwed me and I’m still suing him?

Stop litigating and never think about him again. Half the problem was you, not him.

  1. DD) What if I’m going to jail?

Perfect. Reread “B.” Read a lot of books in jail.

  1. EE) What if I’m shy?

Make your weaknesses your strengths. Introverts listen better, focus better, and have ways of being more endearing.

  1. FF) What if I can’t wait five years?

If you plan on being alive in five years then you might as well start today.

  1. GG) How should I network?

Make concentric circles. You’re at the middle.

The next circle is friends and family.

The next circle is online communities.

The circle after that is meetups and coffees.

The circle after that is conferences and thought leaders.

The circle after that is mentors.

The circle after that is customers and wealth-creators.

Start making your way through the circles.

  1. HH) What happens when I have ego about what I do?

In 6-12 months you’ll be back at “B”

  1. II) What if I’m passionate about two things? What if I can’t decide?

Combine them and you’ll be the best in the world at the combination.

  1. JJ) What if I’m so excited I want to teach what I’m learning?

Start teaching on YouTube. Start with an audience of one and see if it builds up.

  1. KK) What if I want to make money while I sleep?

In year four, start outsourcing what you do.

  1. LL) How do I meet mentors and thought leaders?

Once you have enough knowledge (after 100-200 books), write down 10 ideas for 20 different potential mentors.

None of them will respond. Write down 10 more ideas for 20 new mentors. Repeat every week.

Put together a newsletter for everyone who doesn’t respond. Keep repeating until someone responds. Blog about your learning efforts. Build community around you being an expert.

  1. MM) What if I can’t come up with ideas?

Then keep practicing coming up with ideas. The idea muscle atrophies. You have to build it up.

It’s hard for me to touch my toes if I haven’t been doing it every day. I have to do it every day for a while before I can easily touch my toes. Don’t expect to come up with good ideas on day one.

  1. NN) What else should I read?

AFTER books, read websites, forums, magazines. But most of that is garbage.

  1. OO) What if I do everything you say but it still doesn’t seem like it’s working?

It will work. Just wait. Keep reinventing every day.

Don’t try and find the end of the road. You can’t see it in the fog. But you can see the next step and you do know that if you take that next step eventually you get to the end of the road.

  1. PP) What if I get depressed?

Sit in silence for one hour a day. You need to get back to your core.

If you think this sounds stupid then don’t do it. Stay depressed.

  1. QQ) What if I don’t have time to sit in silence?

Then sit in silence for two hours a day. This is not meditation. This is just sitting.

  1. RR) What if I get scared?

Sleep 8-9 hours a day and never gossip. Sleep is the No. 1 key to successful health. It’s not the only key. It’s just No. 1. Some people write to me and say, “I only need four hours of sleep” or “in my country sleeping means laziness.” Well, those people will fail and die young.

What about gossip? The brain biologically wants to have 150 friends. Then when you are with one of your friends you can gossip about any of the other 150. If you don’t have 150 friends then the brain wants to read gossip magazines until it thinks it has 150 friends.

Don’t be as stupid as your brain.

  1. SS) What if I keep feeling like nothing ever works out for me?

Spend 10 minutes a day practicing gratitude. Don’t suppress the fear. Notice the anger.

But also allow yourself to be grateful for the things you do have. Anger is never inspirational but gratitude is. Gratitude is the bridge between your world and the parallel universe where all creative ideas live.

  1. TT) What if I have to deal with personal bullshit all the time?

Find new people to be around.

Someone who is reinventing herself will constantly find people to try and bring her down. The brain is scared of reinvention because it might not be safe.

Biologically, the brain wants you to be safe and reinvention is a risk. So it will throw people in your path who will try to stop you.

Learn how to say “no.”

  1. UU) What if I’m happy at my cubicle job?

Good luck.

  1. VV) Why should I trust you – you’ve failed so many times?

Don’t trust me.

  1. WW) Will you be my mentor?

You’ve just read this post.

New Year Resolution

Only weeks away from the start of another year– 2016. Despite the latency involved in posting to this blog in 2015, my resolution for 2016 is to post on a regular basis.

Just as an article from Forbes magazine (Oct. 13, 2014) mentioned, it takes planning to start a search. So does blogging~ I will be back, I promise.

“When it comes to starting your job search, there’s no time like the present—except, maybe, if the present happens to be during a major life change, a big project at work, or the summertime.

For starters, you need to be ready and have time to devote to the process. “I think that once a job seeker decides they want a new job, that’s the best time to look for a job,” Teach says.

Marjie Terry, VP of business development and client service at Great on the Job, adds: “You need to make sure you have enough time on your hands to manage your job search well and make good impressions on contacts you are forming,” she says. “If you’re not going to be able to do your current job well, you might want to wait until you have a bit more time on your hands, or make sure your search is scaled back to meet your current availability.”

Certain times of year are also better than others for job hunting. It may depend on your specific industry or job, but the summer and holidays tend to be slowest for hiring.

“The end of the year tends to be a slower time for new hires,” says Melanie Holmes, a former vice president at ManpowerGroup. “Initiatives are wrapping up and budgets are maxed out. For companies on a calendar year financial schedule, new budgets start in January, which can mean funding for new positions.”

You should also take the holiday calendar into consideration when reaching out to people, Terry adds. Don’t send out a slew of résumés during Thanksgiving week or just before Christmas. “People are focusing only on essentials in order to get away for a much needed holiday break,” she says. “When they return from vacation, your note will be buried under a week of other e-mails.”

She also advises that you stay away from the formal part of the job search during the summer months, as many people are on vacation or putting off non-essential tasks in favor of getting out an hour or two early at the end of the day or week. “There’s no reason, however, to abstain from the research and networking phases during the summer, that way you can hit the ground running come fall,” she says.

Here are other great times to start a job search:

After you’ve done your research. Even in a great economy, there’s no point in looking for a new job or career if you haven’t done your research. “It’s imperative that you know what you want to do and for what company,” Teach says. “You must be prepared, which means knowing where to find out about jobs, having a totally complete LinkedIn profile, conducting informational interviews, anticipating interview questions, knowing exactly what the job entails, and doing as much company research as possible.”

When the company or industry you’re interested in is healthy and hiring. If in your research you find that your dream employer has implemented a hiring freeze, you might be wasting your time pursuing a job there.

“Research the financial health and stability of potential employers,” Holmes suggests.

When you really don’t need a new job. Perhaps the best time to look for a new job is when you don’t need one; you just want one, Teach says. “There’s a lot less pressure on you because your current job isn’t too bad and there’s no rush in getting a new one. You can take your time and if a great opportunity comes up you can take it if you want or you can wait for the next one.” You’re in control.

Can’t Decide what you want to be????

Read this blog post recently–so I do not claim it as my own– but felt it to be so clear and focused in the job search category!!


Discover which job is right for you by leaning on your strengths.

Paul Graham is one of the smartest, most successful people in Silicon Valley, and recently wrote a post on “What Doesn’t Seem Like Work?

“If something that seems like work to other people doesn’t seem like work to you, that’s something you’re well suited for. For example, a lot of programmers I know, including me, actually like debugging. It’s not something people tend to volunteer… But you may have to like debugging to like programming, considering the degree to which programming consists of it.

The stranger your tastes seem to other people, the stronger evidence they probably are of what you should do. When I was in college I used to write papers for my friends. It was quite interesting to write a paper for a class I wasn’t taking. Plus they were always so relieved.

It seemed curious that the same task could be painful to one person and pleasant to another, but I didn’t realize at the time what this imbalance implied, because I wasn’t looking for it. I didn’t realize how hard it can be to decide what you should work on, and that you sometimes have to figure it out from subtle clues, like a detective solving a case in a mystery novel. So I bet it would help a lot of people to ask themselves about this explicitly. What seems like work to other people that doesn’t seem like work to you?”

If you think through the things that don’t seem like work to you, you’ll discover a pattern. Does talking to people all day long get you jazzed, but seem to drain others? Does cranking through a multi-sheet Excel spreadsheet give you a secret thrill when it all adds up at the end? Does managing all the headaches that go along with logistics planning drive others batty, but feel like an engaging puzzle to you?

These differences in how you feel when completing a task or a project indicate an aptitude or skill. And that’s what sets you apart from others. We (mostly) feel better, perform better, enjoy it better, when we’re doing something for which we are well-suited. And that’s an important signal to you about where you’ll find the most rewarding work in life.

Focusing on those areas where you are superior will lead to better results in your career. Too often, we waste time trying to bring all of our skills and capabilities up to the same level as our strongest talents. Not only is that unlikely to work, but it takes away from the time you have to master the skills and capabilities where you do have a gift.

So this week, think about what doesn’t feel like work as you plan your next career moves.

New Year……….New Adventures?

New year brings new adventures and new decisions….time to begin that job hunt anew? Time to dust off that resume to enable yourself to climb the next rung of the ladder? Or maybe to delve off in to the unknown and try your hand at something completely new….

“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” –Confuscious

Probably one of the most difficult changes one must make in life is that of changing jobs or careers. Whether it be due to forced change or just the need to change, the decision and following actions take a toll on personal and family life. Let’s face it– the situation causes anxiety of monumental proportions.  Job or career equals security and it is daunting to even think of relinquishing that level of security. Security means bills get paid, security means being comfortable at work mingling with co-workers, security means the possibility of growth within the organization.

But now that security has gone. You are alone in the big bad world (to quote Cat Stevens, “oh baby baby, it’s a wild world and beware). You may have left due for varying reasons; not enough money, under-appreciated, boredom but the fact remains, it is now time to start the job/career search (again).

So how to get organized for that monumental task? First off, treat it as though it is your job. Now is not the time to waste your effort. Hit the ground early in the morning– don’t think that this is a vacation. Dust off the Rolodex (although truth be told, those contacts should have been cultivated and nurtured all along) and get the word out that you are in the market again. Referrals, suggestions, pointers—- that is what is needed. The subject of referrals will be addressed in a future blog but suffice it to say that referrals should be a two way street. Quid quo pro. Nothing diminishes credibility more than a contact who just “pops up” wanting to be put in touch with a decision maker at a particular company, simply because “you know them, don’t you?” Part of the career process revolves around cultivating contacts– always. A constant and evolving path.

The critical point at this juncture is stay calm, keep focused and motivated, and treat the job search as though it is your current job. For more sage advice, check out this link:

Embarking on a new adventure…………of epic proportions

Embarking on a new adventure............of epic proportions